Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Day in Review - Why I am Still Single - Part 2

No introduction needed for this blog post. If you have read this blog, you may be familiar with my ranting about penis pictures and how men treat women during dating.  If you need a refresher, or just a laugh, you can catch up on a previous dating experience here: Why I am Still Single and the Bridget Jones Rhetoric

Now that you know where I am coming from and the difficultly we Singletons have out there, I have a confession that I want to share...I had hope with this one.  Yes.  I met a man. I liked this man. He did it all right at first. No pressure, he was a gentleman. There was no mention of his penis. The first date was great. I immediately felt a connection with him. We laughed, we poked fun at each other talked about what we wanted in the future. For the first time in probably a year, I actually felt some real potential on a date. I didn't even blog about it because I didn't find anything wrong with him whatsoever!

It wasn't simply that feeling of "I will go on a 2nd date and see how it goes", it was "I want a 2nd date and a 3rd and a 4th and a 5th and on and on and on". It was one of the best 1st dates I have been on. Like I said...I had hope....

Then the shit hit the fan...

2nd date was planned.  I was very excited. So excited, in fact, I accepted the invitation from my mom to take me shopping for a new shirt. (She may have had ulterior motives though and wanted to drive around in her new Caddie...yes, "Sarah and Todd" got rid of the Jeep and replaced it with a Cadillac. It is a luxurious ride.)  I got a beautiful new sweater (since it is still in the 50's here in CLE!!!!) in the perfect color blue to make my eyes look more gorgeous than they normally do. (I should write some poetry today...I seem to be in a rhyming mood)  I did my hair nice, great make-up, looked good.  It was really one of those moments where you look in the mirror and think...Wow!  Who is that hottie?  Oh! It's me!

All I had to do was wait for the call from my guy...we will call him John. We were supposed to do lunch, but he sent me a text asking to move it to dinner.  Fine with me! You know, I am easy going. I can totally deal with those types of spontaneous changes. So I waited....and I waited....and waited...I finally took my new sweater off and slipped into my sweats.  8:00pm at this point and yes...I can admit...I was stood up.

By 9:00pm I had several texts from him. Long story short he said his phone broke, he would never, ever stand someone up. He really likes me, thinks this could really be a long term relationship and can't begin to say how sorry he is for not getting in touch with me sooner. After a few quick texts with my mom and a friend, I agreed to see him again.  I will give someone the benefit of the more.  (<---a lesson John learned today)
Is it really broken?  Read on...

We talked on the phone all week.  (Both of us had very busy schedules last week, so we planned to meet today, for lunch.  Today's lunch date has been planned since the weekend.) Conversation was wonderful, we really connected and were getting to know each other. Like clock-work he would text every morning, again at night. We generally had some sort of conversation mid afternoon each day.  It was admittedly awesome!

Then day broke on Wednesday, April 27th, 2011. (Today, if you aren't looking at a calendar) My morning text didn't come...I sent one instead around 9:30am....and waited....I called at answer (not right to voicemail either, which means the phone was not turned off...remember this fact for later, Gumshoes) I waited.  I logged onto the website I had met him on. It shows him as active in the past 5 minutes.  (What??? Why isn't he responding to my text??)  I sent him a message on the website.  (For the record, I also had the option to chat with him since he was currently online)

The message said:  

Are we not going to lunch today? I sent you some broken again? If you don't want to go out with me, that's cool, but don't lead me on. I don't want to be a psycho bitch but when someone says they are going to go out with me, I expect them to follow through. I have to go downtown to meet a client for a quick 15 minutes...if I am meeting you, text me and let me know when and where.  If I am not meeting you, forget it. I don't have time for games.

I went downtown....and came back.  No message...until about was a text and said - "Hey, sorry, had to get a new phone on lunch. Broke it last night at work" 

It was at 12:30pm that my head exploded. 

Really?  Your phone broke? AGAIN?!?!?!??!  As many of you know, I am the most clumsy, accident prone individual in the world, and admittedly I have broken my Blackberry once...I can accept someone saying they broke their phone once....but twice?  In three weeks?  I do not believe it. I won't believe it. I won't be a little woman who is taken advantage of like that. After a series of texts, he has denied all fault in the situation. I told him to forget my number. 

So yes...I am 100% totally single yet again. It was nice to be kind of dating someone for a few weeks, but I don't date liars and I won't put up with someone taking advantage of me. Have I said that before? Yes...and I will keep saying it. Why in the hell do men think they can get away with this?  Are there too many women falling for it?  It's weird...I come from a line of pretty strong women. There is no way I could see the women in my family falling for it. Maybe I am too independent? Who knows.  All I do know is if you are a good man or have a good man, I salute you today. You are too few and far between.

So now I sit weighing the options:  single forever....converting to Catholicism and becoming a nun...lipstick lady....I guess all of them could have their positives and negatives.  

By the way, I would just like to take this opportunity to say I feel Donald Trump should move to Alaska... 
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Thursday, April 7, 2011

Day in Review - Ok...Month in Review...

Is anyone out there?  I am here...silently sneaking in for a blog post. I finally have a bit of time where I am not working or watching "Glee"....though I may watch an episode tonight before bed.

I have been really fighting a cold too, which has made me really loopy. More so than most days anyway. I also feel some kind of weirdness in the air...almost like things aren't exactly as they seem. My Lifetime Horoscope suggests it may be because Neptune has entered Pisces and is bringing about change. It could also just be a haziness brought upon by Nyquil and Tylenol Cold & Sinus. When I am sick like this, though admittedly feeling much better than I have been, all I want to do is go to bed...which is weird since I am a self diagnosed insomniac.

Oh, by the way, if you are looking for one of my trademark funny posts, you probably won't get it today.  My mind is just kind of out of it. Neptune, Nyquil or maybe the writing  jobs I have had lately have just made my mind a little foggy. All I can think of is energy savings, Earth Day and weight loss, all little books or article I have written this week.

I went on a date last Monday. I had been talking to this guy for a few weeks. (If you are friends with me on Facebook, you know what happened.) Long story short, in typical Christa fashion, the date started with me at one bar and him on the other side of town at a bar with the same name. As it is hard to have a date at two different bars, I went to the other bar to meet him. I looked really good, was feeling confident and excited to meet this guy, since we had really clicked over the phone. Unfortunately this is not what happened in face to face interactions. The first real conversation we had after our greetings was about who he thinks women rely on men too much and men shouldn't be expected to pay for everything when they go out. This went on to a conversation about how he broke up with his ex-girlfriend because she has student loans.  He was very concerned about money and credit scores and the like. The date ended with me paying for my own drinks and him saying he will call later in the week and had a good call...

I have two more guys on deck, so we'll see what happens.

As a side note, as I am writing this, I am laying on my couch watching "Snapped". There is a woman on there and since I am not really paying total attention to it, I just happened to glance over at the TV and without hearing anything about her or hearing her talk, I thought to myself...."I bet she's from Kentucky"....just based on how she looked...sure enough...Louisville.  I think it's because she looks like my freshman year roommate.  Bridgette...
I made a personal vow not to go to Kentucky due to Rand Paul being elected, but I may change my mind.

Back to post - I have been really into music these past two weeks too. I can't really pin point where it started but it's like I can't get enough. I never thought I would find someone who I felt sang as well or as soulfully as Alicia Keys, but Adele has got to come close. her video for "Rolling in the Deep". It won't let me link to it but I dare you to watch it and not be affected by the very least tapping your foot. The sword dancer in that video is brilliant and I can't stop watching it. It makes me want to learn to dance...

Speaking of dancing, I did lose a toenail last week as well. For some reason I jumped back on the Brittney train and have been listening to a lot of Brittney Spears. I have been a fan for years, but definitely go through stages. I will be the first to admit her music is highly produced and tuned, but girl can dance...well she used to be able to. I am getting off topic though...I was "Toxic"...coordinating my own moves.  I thought it would be good exercise...unfortunately I got too close to the couch and bye-bye baby toe nail. Well, the toe nail didn't fall off then, it took a few days. Alas, it's gone.
Mom, do you think they are implants?  HER TEETH, PEOPLE!  We know her boobs are fake!

I have been scouring for new-to-me artists to listen to. Most I don't of them fell into my lap randomly the other day and I loved her! Rachael Owens is her name.
She has a few videos up on her YouTube channel
I am looking forward to more. Check her out.

Is anyone else as pissed as I am that  Bristol Frickin Palin made a quarter million dollars last year preaching abstinence after she got knocked up in high school? Um...if you have a baby, obviously you were not abstinent!  Ugh...I said Palin, now I need a shot or something...maybe a double Nyquil dose....