Day in Review - Why I am Still Single - Part 2

No introduction needed for this blog post. If you have read this blog, you may be familiar with my ranting about penis pictures and how men treat women during dating.  If you need a refresher, or just a laugh, you can catch up on a previous dating experience here: Why I am Still Single and the Bridget Jones Rhetoric

Now that you know where I am coming from and the difficultly we Singletons have out there, I have a confession that I want to share...I had hope with this one.  Yes.  I met a man. I liked this man. He did it all right at first. No pressure, he was a gentleman. There was no mention of his penis. The first date was great. I immediately felt a connection with him. We laughed, we poked fun at each other talked about what we wanted in the future. For the first time in probably a year, I actually felt some real potential on a date. I didn't even blog about it because I didn't find anything wrong with him whatsoever!

It wasn't simply that feeling of "I will go on a 2nd date and see how it goes", it was "I want a 2nd date and a 3rd and a 4th and a 5th and on and on and on". It was one of the best 1st dates I have been on. Like I said...I had hope....

Then the shit hit the fan...

2nd date was planned.  I was very excited. So excited, in fact, I accepted the invitation from my mom to take me shopping for a new shirt. (She may have had ulterior motives though and wanted to drive around in her new Caddie...yes, "Sarah and Todd" got rid of the Jeep and replaced it with a Cadillac. It is a luxurious ride.)  I got a beautiful new sweater (since it is still in the 50's here in CLE!!!!) in the perfect color blue to make my eyes look more gorgeous than they normally do. (I should write some poetry today...I seem to be in a rhyming mood)  I did my hair nice, great make-up, looked good.  It was really one of those moments where you look in the mirror and think...Wow!  Who is that hottie?  Oh! It's me!

All I had to do was wait for the call from my guy...we will call him John. We were supposed to do lunch, but he sent me a text asking to move it to dinner.  Fine with me! You know, I am easy going. I can totally deal with those types of spontaneous changes. So I waited....and I waited....and waited...I finally took my new sweater off and slipped into my sweats.  8:00pm at this point and yes...I can admit...I was stood up.

By 9:00pm I had several texts from him. Long story short he said his phone broke, he would never, ever stand someone up. He really likes me, thinks this could really be a long term relationship and can't begin to say how sorry he is for not getting in touch with me sooner. After a few quick texts with my mom and a friend, I agreed to see him again.  I will give someone the benefit of the doubt....one time....no more.  (<---a lesson John learned today)

Is it really broken?  Read on...

We talked on the phone all week.  (Both of us had very busy schedules last week, so we planned to meet today, for lunch.  Today's lunch date has been planned since the weekend.) Conversation was wonderful, we really connected and were getting to know each other. Like clock-work he would text every morning, again at night. We generally had some sort of conversation mid afternoon each day.  It was admittedly awesome!

Then day broke on Wednesday, April 27th, 2011. (Today, if you aren't looking at a calendar) My morning text didn't come...I sent one instead around 9:30am....and waited....I called at 10:30am....no answer (not right to voicemail either, which means the phone was not turned off...remember this fact for later, Gumshoes)...so I waited.  I logged onto the website I had met him on. It shows him as active in the past 5 minutes.  (What??? Why isn't he responding to my text??)  I sent him a message on the website.  (For the record, I also had the option to chat with him since he was currently online)

The message said:  

Are we not going to lunch today? I sent you some texts...phone broken again? If you don't want to go out with me, that's cool, but don't lead me on. I don't want to be a psycho bitch but when someone says they are going to go out with me, I expect them to follow through. I have to go downtown to meet a client for a quick 15 minutes...if I am meeting you, text me and let me know when and where.  If I am not meeting you, forget it. I don't have time for games.

I went downtown....and came back.  No message...until about 12:30pm...it was a text and said - "Hey, sorry, had to get a new phone on lunch. Broke it last night at work" 

It was at 12:30pm that my head exploded. 

Really?  Your phone broke? AGAIN?!?!?!??!  As many of you know, I am the most clumsy, accident prone individual in the world, and admittedly I have broken my Blackberry once...I can accept someone saying they broke their phone once....but twice?  In three weeks?  I do not believe it. I won't believe it. I won't be a little woman who is taken advantage of like that. After a series of texts, he has denied all fault in the situation. I told him to forget my number. 

So yes...I am 100% totally single yet again. It was nice to be kind of dating someone for a few weeks, but I don't date liars and I won't put up with someone taking advantage of me. Have I said that before? Yes...and I will keep saying it. Why in the hell do men think they can get away with this?  Are there too many women falling for it?  It's weird...I come from a line of pretty strong women. There is no way I could see the women in my family falling for it. Maybe I am too independent? Who knows.  All I do know is if you are a good man or have a good man, I salute you today. You are too few and far between.

So now I sit weighing the options:  single forever....converting to Catholicism and becoming a nun...lipstick lesbian...cat lady....I guess all of them could have their positives and negatives.  

By the way, I would just like to take this opportunity to say I feel Donald Trump should move to Alaska... 

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Day in Review - I miss Bill Clinton

Today, I realized I certainly miss seeing Bill Clinton's face on TV...too bad he can't get re-elected.

News round up today - Serious events going on, for sure. Every few minutes it seemed like there was a new "Breaking News" tweet coming through on my Blackberry.

The Good:

"Elizabeth Smart Gets Justice" - We all remember when Elizabeth Smart disappeared and was miraculously found 11 months later back in 2002. Brian David Mitchell, the man who did it was found guilty of two counts of kidnapping Smart in 2002 and transporting the then-14-year-old girl across state lines with the intent to engage in sexual activity. He will be sentenced on May 15th, 2011.

"Missing Virginia Girl Found" - In some kind of weird cosmic irony, on the same day Elizabeth Smart's abductor was found guilty, Britney Mae Smith, of Roanoke, VA was found safe and alive in California. The alleged abductor was her mother's boyfriend Jeffrey Scott Easley. Her mother, Tina Smith, was found dead in her car in Roanoke, VA on Tuesday.

The Bad: Rather quiet on the bad front today...though I will say I think something is pretty "Bad Ass"

"Bad Ass Bernie Sanders" - Today, in a non-filibustery way, Independent Senator Bernie Sanders of Vermont had a marathon speech, as he and his team are calling it, in opposition of the Bush-Era tax cuts that President Obama is wheeling and dealing to extend, with the GOP. He lasted 8 hours and 35 minutes on the Senate floor. CNN says the record is 24 minutes and 18 minutes.



Another "Bad Ass", Julien Assange's team was relatively quiet today...weird I think...perhaps not. I may just be trying to start a conspiracy theory.

The Ugly:

"Bill and Barrack: Friends Forever" - President Obama, today called in the big guns, in the form of President Bill Clinton to sell the American public on his Bush-Era tax extensions. Seriously, President Obama said a few words...then left! Clinton stayed for about 40 minutes answering questions. Amazing to see a former President taking the stage from the present one. We shall see in the next few days if this tactic worked.

"Poor Haiti" - I feel bad for Haiti. It seems like the poor country can't catch a break. Just this year there was a horrific earthquake...then another earthquake 8 days later. 10 months after that, still a devastated country, there is a Cholera epidemic. Now, to add insult to injury, it was announced just today that Sarah Palin will be visiting. Though I would never wish Cholera on anyone...

Speaking of Haiti...apparently someone named Haiti...or @Haiti_ is following me on Twitter. Good to know I am getting full countries interested in my random thoughts.